Sure, it’s simple to judge other people and dole out advice and criticism to strangers but to be brutally honest with friends is scary. Will it harm the friendship, will they get too angry, or will there be a break in trust and caring? A lot of things run through your head when you consider a friendly intervention, confrontation, or discussion but we all know that at times they are necessary.
It is scary, it sucks, and sometimes it is hard has hell but being a good friend means you trust them enough to discuss the hard things with faith that they’ll still be there when the dust settles. Being a good friend means that you sometimes do what you don’t want to if it is in the other person’s best interest. It might be uncomfortable but when the chips are down wouldn’t you want them to do that for you?
Having friends is an essential part of being a well-adjusted human we bring them in and they become surrogate family members. Often we share more with them than with our blood they hold all our secrets and because of that we have a sacred bond. With that deep friendship comes loyalty and a sense of obligation, we don’t want to do anything to rock the boat of friendship let alone hurt their feelings. Standing up to an enemy is easy because we don’t care about how they’ll feel afterward if they never speak to you again it’s a blessing. When dealing with friends the lines get blurred we’ll give in to their needs even if it goes against our personal beliefs, we keep quiet and try to just go along with things. In the end that kind of behavior will build resentment and ruin a friendship faster than standing your own ground.
In order to be a true friend you have to be willing to rock the boat, to say things that the other party may not want to hear, you have to be honest no matter what the outcome. I’ve had to walk that tightrope through many friendships and sometimes it meant a period when things weren’t great but in the end it works out because a true friend will recognize honesty. Don’t be afraid to stand your ground you have to be true to yourself and if you find that those friends don’t come back, then they weren’t really friends to begin with.
Enemies are terrifying yes, but they’re already in the “I don’t like you, you’re mean and suck at life” category. Telling them off is a little nerve-wracking but at the end of the day you don’t really lose anything. Now with friends– the stakes are higher. What if they get pissed at you? What if it ends your friendship? What if things just become awkward?
Peer pressure is a bitch. Luckily, when I was a teenager I laughed in the face of peer pressure. I did what I wanted and didn’t care if people thought I was cool. It’s pretty much the same for me now. If I say no, I’m not doing something and I’m begged or pressured to– I won’t budge an inch. If anything I’m annoyed that I’m not being respected.
Not everyone is this way. There are plenty of people who would rather not ripple the waters than stand up for what they believe in. Know this– ripple those waters because it’s a true test of whether those surrounding you are real, quality friends.Because sometimes they aren’t. No, not everyone can handle the truth or having a friend dish it to them, but if they’re real– they’ll come around. If they don’t, well then they don’t really respect your voice. And is that someone you really want around?
So tell us, have you had to stand up to your friends? Was it as scary as you were afraid it was going to be? I bet that if you did it went a lot smoother than you thought it would and you worried yourself for nothing. Get sharing, badasses, and have a great Motivation Monday.
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